Honesty - the best policy?

(30/06/08)

For quite a while now I've tried to be as open, honest & transparent as possible with people, whilst not always easy, it strikes me as the best thing to do.

At times it is difficult, but generally the results are that you get honesty back & more open relationships with everyone concerned. The friendships based on this seem to be a lot deeper & a lot more fulfilling. I think as long as you have the trust that things are being said without hidden agenda & come from a place of love then it is the best policy.

Two things I have stumbled across this week have affirmed this stance. The first was a quote by awesome street philosopher De La Vega (see the link to his website under things I like):

"It's better to lose people with the truth than to keep them with lies"

and the next from the tenth insight of the Celestine Prophecy:

"Emotional clearing cannot begin until we come totally back to love. The key is to acknowledge the emotion, to become fully conscious of the feeling, and then to share it honestly, no matter how awkward our attempts. This brings emotion fully into present awareness & ultimately allows it to be relegated to the past, where it belongs. That's why going through the sometimes long process of saying it, discussing it, putting it on the table clears us, so that we're able to return to love, which is the highest emotion"

Phew. It's working for me, but James Redfield is definitely accurate when he describes attempts to do this awkward! In my experience though it's definitely worth persisting!